Low self-esteem can lead to various problems in
someone's career, relationships and personal life. Low self-esteem can
easily be transformed into depression which can further affect one's
metal, physical and social disposition.
Respected
psycho-therapist, Dr. Nathaniel Branden, defines self-esteem as the
"disposition to experience oneself as being competent enough to be able
to keep up with the challenges in one's life." The concept of
self-esteem is basically all about how one views himself and his place
in life itself. It is overall view of oneself based on reality.
Having
a healthy self-esteem is important. It gives someone a positive outlook
in life and this is reflected in his performance in his job, in his
relationships and basically in everything that he does.
Here are 10 helpful tips on how one can boost his self-esteem.
1) Accept yourself
People
should remember that everyone is unique and beauty is to be found in
every human being. Yes, other people can be better in doing certain
things but this fact shouldn't hinder people from being the best that
they can be.
Everybody is special and unique. A person's true
worth cannot be seen in only one dimension of his life. For example,
people usually envy the rich, thinking that they have everything and
thus they are the happiest people in the world. However, the best
things in life can never be bought by money. Stories of unhappiness
among the rich are everywhere around us and this is a sign that wealth
cannot be equated with happiness.
2) Self-Appreciation
Accepting
oneself is different from appreciating oneself. Self-acceptance is a
pre-requisite to self-appreciation but the latter must always be
present. One might accept oneself under a pessimistic light and this is
not very healthy. "I accept that I cannot do the things that I really
want to do because I am weak" is a sample statement which depicts an
unhealthy self-acceptance.
Appreciating oneself under a positive
light is a definite self-esteem booster. One must highlight the good
things about him and try to reinforce them and be better at those
things.
3) Refrain from Comparing
Low self-esteem can be
brought by the environment. Again, this can be traced to the lack of
self-acceptance. Everybody is different and you have qualities that no
other person has. A general sense of self-worth should be built without
comparing oneself to other people.
4) Don't Put Yourself Down
Nobody's
perfect. Making a mistake is definitely normal and people should start
accepting this fact. People with low self-esteem tend to put themselves
even lower by continuously and harshly putting themselves down. An
inner voice which reverberates inside their heads tells them that there
is no hope. This should not be the case and having control over the
inner voices can be the solution for this problem. Cut yourself some
slack, you've done your best and that's what's important.
5) Befriend Positive People
Having
friends who are positive towards dealing with life's challenges can
influence someone into seeing life in the same light and eventually
build his self-esteem.
6) Remind Yourself of the Positive Things About You
Again,
there is beauty in everyone. Remember all the things that you like
about yourself and the good things which you have done and make a list
of the most striking ones. This will help in self-appreciation and
definitely give you something to smile about.
7) Use tools
Buying
books, CD's and other materials about building self-esteem wouldn't
hurt, would it? These materials can definitely provide some informative
ways on how to deal with low self-esteem. However, buying these
materials would be useless if the lessons which they give wouldn't be
applied in real life.
8) Engage in Fun Activities
Having
fun once in a while releases stress, takes the negative ideas out of
one's head and leaves space for positive thoughts to fill in. Having
fun makes one feel happy about oneself.
9) Hangout with Friends
Having
fun can be done privately but nothing beats fun with friends. Friends
are usually a part of the primary support group of a person and can
provide much needed conversations for a down-and-out person.
10) Seek Help
When
all else fail, seek professional help from a psychologist. There's
nothing wrong with taking care of yourself since low self-esteem can
lead to more serious problems.
Having low self-esteem can be
solved with the right tools and the right attitude. Loving yourself is
the ultimate way which leads to a healthy and a better "you."